Believe it or not, pain is paramount in the recipe of life. Until we’re sad, devastated and crestfallen we don’t understand the importance of being happy, confident and triumphant. Yin and Yang, an ancient Chinese philosophy states that in the circle of life, one half consists of the happy in the sad and the other half consists of the sad in the happy. This is what life is. It about creating a balance, understanding the importance of feeling melancholic and grief-stricken. Experiencing life includes feeling painful emotions. We need to counterbalance all the emotions in our life.
There are some very basic things that we need to understand about ‘pain’. Firstly, that it’s inevitable. You will experience pain, maybe in different forms.
As humans what we forget to focus on Is that, we have to prepare ourselves to experience pain instead of cutting-off from it. Believe it or not, but how we suffer today, will shape our tomorrow and our outlook on life. Pain is not false, in fact it’s very natural to experience it. It means that you’re on the right path of life and that sooner or later, you will see the outcomes of what you termed as ‘pain’. We need to feel the pain in order to heal from it as feeling it makes us aware of what supposed to be healed. It transforms us into a better person emotionally, mentally and physically. In short, pain makes us strong and ready to face the challenges ahead of us. Pain can be used as a very effective and efficient tool to move through life.
Pain is a part of growth. But this will only occur once you have what is called a growth mindset.
We need to recognize the fact that when people face hardship, they develop resilience. Suffering teaches us to grateful for what we have. We understand that
we wouldn’t want to lose something precious and that makes us appreciative of what we already have. Understanding that pain and challenges in life are ineluctable, we require the pivotal understanding of what is a growth mindset and in contradiction, what is a fixed mindset.
Steve Maraboli once said “Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.”.
To begin with, a growth mindset focuses on improvement and enhancement. It works on embracing challenges, learning from feedback and criticisms, always trying and never giving up and believing in intelligence that can be developed.
On the contrary, a fixed mindset is the most dangerous. It tells us to avoid challenges, give up easily, not take criticism and always complain. Taking an example, one says “I can’t do this.” This is a fixed mindset. The person is setting limitations for himself/herself when ideally he should say “I can’t do this yet but soon it shall learn how to.”
That’s what differentiates a person who has a growth mindset, he/she never sets any boundaries and always embraces ambiguity. People with a growth mindset are more likely to maximize their potential and find new motivations in life because their belief is such. They believe in the development and nurturing of the mind. They accept failure as the most valuable teacher.
A mindset can later turn into a habit or a belief, which might be very harmful if not tuned in the right way. That’s why we’re always told to reflect on our actions and behavior, and understand what changes we can bring in our life in order to enhance and make the most of it.